Your guide for the journey of life, and the passage to conscious elderhood
People hire coaches for many reasons – to achieve their goals, to become more effective leaders, to navigate change, to have more of what they really want, and to make the ride of life smoother and easier. My own sense of “why coaching?” after many years of serving as a coach, is that deep inside, most people know there is a “something more” to themselves. They want a more meaningful, joyful, and fulfilling life, not just more accomplishments or credentials or toys. Coaching is a partnership that enables us to explore that “something more” in a safe, confidential way, and to peel back the layers to your best, most exquisite self.
Conscious Eldering Pathfinding
As we grow through the course of our lives, we come to realize that our time here is both exquisite and finite. This realization can cause us to become fearful, ignoring the notion of mortality, and denying the realities of the aging process. Or, it can offer an opportunity to explore the rich depth of our truest essence – that which is sometimes described as “a spiritual being having a human experience.”
The great paradox of doing the work of Conscious Eldering is this: by carefully considering, exploring, and preparing for the end of life, we can release the grip of fear and become more fully capable of, and available to, the rich, fulfilling potential of our third act. And we can access the wisdom gained from the cumulative experience of life to sweeten and strengthen our remaining time on the planet.
I get it. That feeling of looking in the mirror -- the changes you are noticing in your physical body, your emotional and psychological being, your energy level, the things that you feel “done” with, and the blanks that you encounter when you ask the question, “What now?”
So many of the professional women I know, including myself, have spent the majority of their 60-something adult years being defined by our careers. We’re proud of where we’ve been and what we’ve accomplished. And we have many great accolades to show for it. Still, a part of us feels done. We’re over “it”, but we don’t know what to replace it with. Something is stirring deep inside, but it doesn’t have a name, and it’s keeping us awake at night. We might even wonder if we’re going crazy, or at the very least, chiding ourselves for feeling ungrateful.
Inspiration of the Moment
For a New Beginning
In out-of-the-way places of the heart,
Where your thoughts never think to wander,
This beginning has been quietly forming,
Waiting until you were ready to emerge.
For a long time it has watched your desire,
Feeling the emptiness growing inside you,
Noticing how you willed yourself on,
Still unable to leave what you had outgrown.
It watched you play with the seduction of safety
And the gray promises that sameness whispered,
Heard the waves of turmoil rise and relent,
Wondered would you always live like this.
Then the delight, when your courage kindled,
And out you stepped onto new ground,
Your eyes young again with energy and dream,
A path of plenitude opening before you.
Though your destination is not yet clear
You can trust the promise of this opening;
Unfurl yourself into the grace of beginning
That is at one with your life’s desire.
Awaken your spirit to adventure;
Hold nothing back, learn to find ease in risk;
Soon you will be home in a new rhythm,
For your soul senses the world that awaits you.
I have lived a rich and full life, in places crisscrossing the country from major metropolitan areas to small rural towns. Along the way I’ve had many adventures and chapters, all contributing to the woman I am today. Shifting gears from a long and fulfilling corporate coaching practice into the third act of my own life, is the catalyst for my current offerings and the perspective I bring to others in similar transitions.